It’s on the radio, it’s in your conversations, it's that classic slogan on your t-shirt.
From public speeches to self-discovery statuses on my Facebook newsfeed, people are no longer thanking just their supporters, but also their haters. Collecting haters is the latest trend; but like any obsession, it’s unhealthy.
For example, you might attract haters that call you out on being “fat.” Turning those words into inspiration might make you work out, and someday you might even have a skinnier, more toned body than any of your bullies. But haters are never going to be impressed; they will just continue hating even if they have to find a new thing about you to hate.
It is easy to tell yourself that haters are the mere motivation in reaching a goal that is only for you. I know, because I have told myself this often, when, in reality, all I can focus on is achieving my goal just so I can shove my awesomeness in their faces. BAM! It could be time to reevaluate my intentions…
Think of celebrities who remain timeless because they work the media without feeding the paparazzi: Meryl Streep, Blake Lively, Beyoncé, and more.
The truth is that insecure people will always love haters. They need them as an incentive to move forward. But truly confident and secure people don’t even acknowledge them; they believe in themselves enough already.
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