As an internet personality, you give your life to the public, trying to appease your audience and woo strangers into watching your content. Every day of the week you have to be "on," from uploading to responding to comments. If person X, Y, and Z can meet that demand, you got to do it too, right? Well, thank you for your time, let's talk about limits of being a YouTuber.
The ultimate worst thing that YouTubers, myself especially, hate are people who waste our time. As you become more active on platforms, building your brand, people will message you to socially chat, hang out, or date. As a 5'2", petite woman, I am not up for creating one-on-one meet ups with strangers. (It also baffles me how many men believe I would be interested in putting myself in a high-anxiety, potentially dangerous situation.) Yes, I purposely keep my DMs open in order to engage with my audience because I really like to learn about the people who take the time to support me. I want to know what type of videos they enjoy, but also their stories. However, there is a difference of having a mutually respectful conversation and "you're so hot, let me take you out" type thing.
Side Note: These were some of the messages that I could find. Lately, I have been deleting message threads, declining message requests, and blocking users.
The worst conversations, besides the ones that include dick pix, have been from people disguising their intentions because they want me to respond. They stumble upon my Poshmark listing (buy my stuff at @LesleyyX1) and reach out to inquire about the clothes I am selling, but they have no intentions of buying. They request videos acting as a fan when really this video completes their sexual fetish needs. They pull me into circle conversations because they are bored. True fans do not do that.
The LImits of Being a YouTuber
Shane Dawson's Jake Paul series included footage of fans swarming the first Team 10 house. You could hear one mother say "Be gentle with your fans. They made you famous." Granted, this scenario was worse than wasting a creator's time. Stalking YouTubers in their home is mean, an invasion of privacy, and a risk to their safety. Now is the time to tell yourself again and again that the limits of being a YouTuber exists.
Tell yourself this on a daily basis:
I'm allowed to say no, to put myself first, to respect myself, and to give myself a break.
Some people will think this entire blog is about complaining, and it is not. I know that many more YouTubers, way more famous than me, suffer way worse harassment. But if it happens to me as a small creator (or even because I am a woman on the internet), then I must talk about this. I believe everyone has been harassed (and maybe at one point the harasser) at one point in their life. Let's start a conversation and change this.
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